Humankind has come a long way with technology and social infrastructure since the beginning of time…..but sometimes you have to just sit back and wonder just how far we have really come.

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers; wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less; we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families; more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense; more knowledge, but less judgment; more experts, yet more problems; more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbour. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things.

We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion; big men and small character; steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce; fancier houses but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill.

There are some small things that we can do in our lives every day to bring happiness and fulfilment not just to ourselves….but the people around us.

Remember to spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember to say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.

Remember to say “I love you” to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak, and give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

So I ask you all to ponder this message and reflect…but if there is just one message that I ask you to take away………….

REMEMBER to just live…… because life is not forever.

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

Unfortunately today it is difficult to find role models that our next generations can look up to for inspiration and leadership. Without a doubt, parents will have the biggest influence on their children as role models, but there are always other roles models that our children look up to in magazines and on television. The new breed of heroes for our children are in the entertainment, fashion and sporting worlds. Don’t get me wrong, there are some great role models in those fields, but all too often it is the bad role models making the headlines.

Bad and obnoxious behaviour sells better than good. Everywhere you look and read today, some well-known personality is shown doing something stupid, or just being plain right obnoxious with their behaviour and attitude. Unfortunately, it is this new generation of role models that is having the biggest impact on our children.

As much as we try to protect our children from the poor character traits of entertainment, music or sports stars, it is difficult given the enormous penetration that media has into our lives. It is ultimately the responsibility of every one of us to try to lead by example so our next generations will develop good character traits, values and morals.

Andrew Carnegie was a top-class role model. Below are a few of his character traits and ideals which helped him live a successful life. It is a shame that we have to look so far back into history to find great role models. There is a lot that can be learned from others that have walked the path of a successful life. But there are also lessons that can be learnt from those that haven’t.

Carnegie believed it was the mind that would make the body rich; in order to succeed, one had to cultivate within oneself a number of characteristics that would clear the mind to be able to focus on the end goal. According to Carnegie, opportunities would always present themselves and unless he was in a sound mental state, he would not be able to seize those occasions.

The first and most important point for Carnegie lied in his ability to master his own mood. No matter how difficult the circumstances, Carnegie believed that it was of the utmost importance to maintain a positive attitude. “There is little success where there is little laughter,” he said. “A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune. Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine.”

With a healthy state of mind, Carnegie then set out to ensure his physical well-being by refining his habits. He was staunchly opposed to drinking alcohol, believing that this would cloud his ability to think clearly and soak up the energy he would need to achieve his goals. “I will not paint the evil of drunkenness, or the moral crime; but I suggest to you that it is low and common to enter a bar-room, unworthy of any self-respecting man, and sure to fasten upon you a taint which will operate to your disadvantage in life, whether you ever become a drunkard or not,” Carnegie said. He was also against smoking, “not that it is morally wrong, except in so far as it is used in excess and injures health, which the medical faculty declares it does.”

Carnegie believed that in order to achieve great success in life, he had to ensure that he was not only in good health and good spirits, but that he also carried himself in an upstanding way. “There is no genuine, praiseworthy success in life if you are not honest, truthful, fair-dealing,” he said. By operating under these principles, Carnegie was able to gain the trust of those around him, which helped to propel his success.

While he was a compassionate man, Carnegie had no patience for those who gave excuses to explain their own failure, particularly when they claimed their circumstances were out of their control. “Some never had a chance, according to their own story,” he said. “This is simply nonsense. No young man ever lived who had not a chance, and a splendid chance, too.”

Carnegie believed in creating his own circumstances and so long as he could control his own thoughts and mind, he could do just that. “His ability, honesty, habits, associations, temper, disposition, all these are weighted and analysed,” he said. “The young man who never had a chance is the same young man who has been canvassed over and over again by his superiors…owing to some objectionable act, habit, or association.”

The person who gains the ability to take full possession of his own mind may take possession of anything else to which he is justly entitled.

Andrew Carnegie.

3rd Battalion Airborne Wings

During our service in the Paratroopers with the 3rd Battalion, we took part in the largest Military Airborne  deployment in Australia. We were being deployed into Silver Plains near Cohen in far North Queensland as part of the exercise Far Canopy. The exercise was part of a larger Military exercise currently underway called Diamond Dollar. Given the sheer size of the Airborne deployment, we were all excited as well as nervous.

We boarded the C130’s in Cairns fully kited out in our full combat gear. I was being deployed as part of Mortar Platoon, so I had strapped to my body an 81mm mortar tube which weighed around 6.5kg and was over 1m in length. I also had my battle pack and rifle strapped on my legs which weighed about 35kg as we were carrying in full battle ammunition and supplies.

The C130’s taxied out on to the runway in single line formation with their payload of Paratroopers. The engines roared to life on the C130’s as the aircraft picked up speed down the runway. The aircraft lifted off one by one, and they made their way towards the drop zone at Silver Plains nearly two hours away.

30 minutes out from the drop zone we hooked our static lines to the wire cable inside the aircraft. Today we were deploying using the “simdoor” rapid deployment technique. “Simdoor” deployments are where Paratroopers exit simultaneously from doors on each side of the C130’s. This exit strategy is very rapid and necessary when you have eight C130’s and 450 Paratroopers being dropped on the drop zone in a single line with one run.

As the aircraft closed in closer to the drop zone, you could sense the fear and apprehension of the men around you. We had completed all our equipment checks and we were 10 minutes out. At this stage, the nerves and the fear had increased, and you tried to give your mate next to you a brave smile and a look of “it’s going to be all right mate.” You know that you are all in it together, a band of brothers. These experiences perhaps explain why people that have served in the military together form such strong bonds of camaraderie.

The doors on both sides of the aircraft were now open and the wind screams in. It’s a chilling noise, and we know that we will be heading out through that noise as we roar 300 metres above the ground doing 120 knots. We receive the 30-second to go signal, the adrenaline starts to pump as we look our mates in the eye once last time. You cannot prevent going through your mind the worst case scenario of your parachute failing. “Red on STANDBY” the dispatcher yells out as the red light goes on, this is it, game on. There is not much going through your mind now but getting out the doors safely and landing in one piece.

“Green on GO” the dispatcher yells as the green light switches from red to green. We make our way towards the door with the wind screaming its horrible tune. I exit the door and get sucked into the slipstream along the side of the aircraft. I make my safety count of 1000, 2000, 3000, 4000 and look up and my canopy has safely deployed, so I breathe a sigh of relief. Looking around, the sky is filled with Paratroopers, it was an amazing site as C130’s continue to drop their human payload up the full-length of the drop zone of nearly 10km.

I was in the last aircraft, so our drop was closer to the start of the drop zone. We had been dropped a little too early, so the trees were closing in on me quickly. They were not small trees either. I lock my body in as I came down in a tree, stopping about a metre or two off the ground. I had landed nearly 100metres before the start of the drop zone, but I was okay. I could still feel my heart pumping and the adrenaline running through my veins.

We moved to the forming up areas on the drop zone to continue with the exercise for the next few weeks. It was then that we found out that one of our comrades had not survived the jump. Lcpl Bateman’s main parachute had failed, and he was unable to deploy his reserve parachute. That is your worst fear as a Paratrooper, and on that day, it could have been anyone of us that had been assigned that parachute.

When you confront your worst fears, that is when you get to know who you are. We all have fear in our lives that we must confront each and every day. It is okay and natural to feel fear, but it is when fear controls your life that you may miss reaching your full potential. Feel the fear, get to know fear and respect it, but when it rises, look fear in the eyes and let it know that it does not control your life.

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C130's making their drop at Silver Plains - Australia

Without vision and goals in our lives, it is easy to lose direction and motivation. Vision and goals can be related to just about any aspect of our lives, but the main areas would be health & fitness, family, work and self-development. Think of life as an arrow. Could you imagine if an arrow had no target or bullseye to hit? Firing an arrow aimlessly at no target is as useful as living our lives without vision and goals — the arrow, and our lives, could end up anywhere.

Having vision and goals that are too specific and over weight to one area of our life can also cause problems, as this can lead us to neglect other areas or people close to us. Losing balance in other areas of our life can have major negative effects and outcomes. I believe that it is powerful vision that drives and motivates us towards what we want to achieve. It is the goals that we establish along the way, which builds the bridge to turn the vision into a reality.

The world is where it is today because it has been developed and shaped by people with powerful vision.

Walt Disney, before he died, was looking out at a flat piece of land. One of his workers asked him what he was looking at. Walt Disney replied “I am looking at my mountain.” Looking out, there was no mountain, just a flat piece of land. However he sat there looking at the land for hours and hours. So the worker began to write down what Walt Disney was saying. After Walt Disney died and Space Mountain was built, when they dedicated it, the speaker said that was a pity that Walt Disney never got to see it. Walt Disney’s wife stood up and corrected the speaker and said: “Walt already saw this mountain. You are the ones seeing it for the first time.”

The above story about Walt Disney illustrates that when we have a powerful vision, we can see what the outcome will look like as if it is real. I believe that vision without action is an illusion. Therefore, when you have a vision that is powerful, and it is something that you want to achieve, make sure you establish set goals to ensure that you take the necessary steps to turn the vision into a reality.

We spend our time creating financial wealth and working to try to enrich our lives financially, but spend little time trying to enrich ourselves. When you begin to invest in yourself, life can become much more rewarding and satisfying. If you constantly invest in your health and fitness as well as develop your mind and self-awareness, you will always be growing in some way personally. It is said that one of the key ingredients for happiness is personal growth.

An investment in your health and fitness will ensure that you have the energy to do more not just with your day, but your life. You will be more productive at work and at home, and you will benefit from the positive feelings with the release of endorphins that come with regular exercise. You will be more alert and aware, and your positive feelings will not only attract opportunities, but others will we attracted to you.

An investment in your mind will give you better awareness and understanding of not just yourself, but others around you. Better self-awareness and understanding will create better relationships, as well as more control over your own emotional state of mind. Being in control of your emotional states will allow you to make better decisions with more clarity. You will also be better prepared to control the emotional states of mind that can be destructive, like anger, jealousy, fear, hatred and selfishness.

In the financial Services Industry, the most coined term is financial freedom. I believe to truly enjoy financial freedom, you must first have mental freedom, self- awareness and your health.

Mark Twain

Many people confuse managing staff with fear as leadership. You can motivate people with fear by threatening their job or making pay cuts, but the results will be short-lived and the environment and culture will be unstable with limited respect.

Great leaders know how to earn respect, they know when to be firm and when to be fair. They know how to empower and grow others for greater leverage, they don’t micro manage.

Some leaders are just born leaders and can inspire and move people with little effort, but leadership is a skill and can be learned.

Leadership will be one of the most demanded skills in the next decade as companies and people lose their way with the myriad of complexities in today’s social and corporate structures.

It’s essentially human nature to be guided by our fears, this inbuilt fear mechanism has ensured the survival of humankind for many millions of years. Without fear, we may not have survived to be who we are today, but this same inbuilt survival mechanism, can also limit our true potential in life for financial success, or to follow our dreams. Many of our fears are adopted during our childhood, or even later in life through our normal life experiences. The way we interpret and analyse these experiences and the emotional response we attach to these experiences, will determine how much fear prevents us from putting ourselves in the way of that situation again.

Overcoming fear in not easy, fear is a powerful and not a very pleasant emotion, but in our lives, too much fear will prevent us from not only trying new things, but may prevent us from trying again if things do not work out the way we would have liked the first time. In life, there is no failure or rejection, there is just feedback. If we try something new, and things do not work out the way we had hoped, we have not failed, we have just received some feedback on how to do it better next time.

One of the greatest tales of overcoming the fear of rejection and failure was the story of Colonel Sanders of Kentucky Fried Chicken. He was 65 years old and the only assets he had were his pension cheque of US$99, and his secret chicken recipe. Colonel Sanders was rejected and knocked back 1008 times when trying to sell his secret chicken recipe to restaurants for a small take of the sales. On the 1009th time, a restaurant accepted his offer. Today Kentucky Fried Chicken outlets are found all over the world. It’s only because Colonel Sanders overcame the fear of failure and fear of rejection, did he eventually change the way the world ate chicken.

Overcoming our fears will eventually open our possibilities for human potential, and allow us to follow our dreams both personally and financially.

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“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself”

You could argue that these new communication methods that are not face to face are destroying our core skills of physical communication, and perhaps even destroying the relationships of those around us in our physical sphere.

Wherever you are and whatever you are doing, be there, be present.

When you work, work. When you play, play. Don’t mix the two.

Give whatever you are doing and whoever you are with the gift of attention. If you give the gift of attention, you will receive more attention in return.

On the way to work, concentrate on what you are doing – not the work.

Pay attention and give attention. Don’t just drift through the day with no direction with your thoughts going in all directions.

Great leaders know how to listen and to give people their attention.